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Inside the scammer’s mind

OK all you guys who suggested I be careful can now say I told ya so! I probably should write about this tomorrow but decided to post it now while it’s fresh in my mind (and besides I can’t go to sleep yet, it’s just 10 minutes to midnight).

In an earlier posting, I commented that the only things I’m worried about are violence and kidnapping. Add one more to that: (potential) trouble with the cops.

Maybe this explanation (which isn’t clearly spelled out in the guidebooks writeups about scams) will help you to avoid trouble: what a scammer/hustler seeks to do is lead you through a sequence of actions which will lead you into a no-win situation. Basically, your tacit or overt yes response to each step of the sequence will eventually lead you beyond a certain threshold – your no response after that point will carry negative consequences for you, and the scammer now holds the upper hand. The only way out is to pay up.

I’ll give the G-rated version of my story because although it might be embarrassing to some, I have nothing to hide. The young guy I mentioned in a couple of earlier entries rematerialized last night, I agreed to have a beer with him at that point and to meet up with him at 8pm this evening to see Intramuros at night and to discuss my plans for Baguio. He showed up an hour and a half early, and we toured Intramuros without any trouble. (Aside from the fact that there wasn’t much to see…)

He wanted to give me a massage (a legitimate one as far as I know) and to take a shower; I bought us merienda (snacks) at 7-11 and we went to my hotel. The desk clerk called upstairs to inform me that unregistered visitors are not allowed in the hotel at any time, please send this guy downstairs. So then the scam sequence became this:

  • Guy (calls himself Josh) can’t produce ID for desk clerk
  • We proceed outside to chat, finish our snack
  • He says there are short-time motels here for a couple hundred pesos ($4-$7)
  • He leads me to a bicycle-powered tricycle for a mere 3-block ride
  • As we walk to entrance, I ask whether he will ask for any more money than I’d given him before; he says no
  • We sit in a somewhat strange waiting room, during which time I contemplate that maybe we should check into a different place than this
  • Clerk leads us to a regular-looking hotel room
  • Josh takes shower, suggests I do same before massage

Having tacitly accepted all the above, a game of hardball then ensues. This is a guy half my age and about 2/3 my weight: not someone I’d ever consider threatening in any potential way. But watch out! You won’t read the rest of this in any guidebook.

  • Josh informs me that he needs to tell me something; I ask what
  • “I lied”, he says sorry to have to say this, wants money
  • Naive me tells him that if he’d simply asked for money up front before paying for taxis and a whole new hotel room, I’d have been accommodating but now my answer’s no. Little do I realize the setup!
  • He then reveals the kicker: both of us have to check out of the hotel at the same time, I can’t leave by myself. (It’s one of those love-hotels that don’t ask questions and don’t ask IDs up front. Ever been in one of those? I hadn’t!)
  • He’s sitting there wearing nothing but a towel and refuses to get dressed. I stormed out and asked him to follow.
  • I summon manager, pay bill.
  • Next kicker: guy demands that police be summoned, won’t explain what he’s planning to tell the cops other than that I’d agreed to pay him some unspecified amount. I hand him 500 pesos ($10.50), witnessed by manager, but he won’t back down.
  • Manager asks me to wait for police to show up.

What would you do in that situation? Well, work up a lot of adrenalin and contemplate just how readily you fell for this latest scam. But it’s got much larger consequences than someone filching your wallet or even your passport.

So it’s two hours since my hasty withdrawal from the whole situation; I’m wondering whether it’s safe to return to my hotel. Remember, this whole thing started at the entrance to my hotel. Tomorrow I will move someplace far away.

I can’t say this won’t ever happen to me again–con artists are very creative and clever–but this is the sort of lesson in street smarts that won’t ever be forgotten.

It all starts with tacitly (or gullibly) allowing a sequence of somewhat unfamiliar eyebrow-raising actions to take place. Remember to say no early in the sequence. Else you’ll face a no-win dilemma like mine.

And don’t believe everything you believe in those scam-avoidance guides. More than one that I’ve read suggests that if you aren’t sure about someone but want to have a private space with them (be it for business meeting, massage, or something naughty) then it’s better to rent a separate hotel room besides your own. As you can see, this advice can’t be accepted at face value.

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Wednesday musings

Last night right after my previous entry, I ran into one of the famous horse-buggy touts along Roxas Blvd. A petite young man, actually quite good-looking, ran up to me after the buggy-driver first called out to me. Once he latched onto me, it took about 3 blocks of zig-zag walking before he finally let go. This was supposedly to garner a 20P fare up to Intramuros. (Guide books say to watch out for these guys, some of whom are scammers, but given the dearth of tourists this week, these guys were probably legitimately desperate for a fare.)

I learned a tip worth passing along: easiest place to find a no-nonsense masseur. During my early-evening walk (I have been doing a lot of walking, enough to get chafing on my left thigh!) last night, I remarked to myself just how pleasant the weather was. Bubble-gum pop music was playing through loudspeakers next to the fountain (where a bandstand is set up on weekends), young kids were running around playfully, the stars were out, humidity was low and the breeze off Manila Bay was quite pleasurable. Next to the fountain across from the Aristocrat restaurant, I noticed a cluster of a half-dozen masseurs touting their services. Wandering back toward them a few minutes later, I stood 30 meters away watching them with some other customers. Then I approached and agreed to a 30-minute session. No-nonsense, professionally trained, quite good actually! And their little area serves as a shield against the touts offering all manner of other items, you can enjoy the stars, the music and the well-maintained fountain while getting a really good massage. Yes, you’re sitting outside in a cheap plastic chair not lying on a tatami mat in a private room. But this ambiance was somehow better for me given my mood last night. (Including 20% tip, the cost was about $2.50. No kidding.) I think I’ll go for a 60-minute session tonight!

I’ve discovered some cheap fast food, too: there is a burger joint on the Baywalk across from Aristocrat that serves a pretty tasty whopper-sized garlic-mayonnaise burger. And if you climb up to the food court at Robinson’s Mall (huge mall not quite a kilometer from my room, opposite direction from even huger Mall of Asia), you can get a square meal of pancit (with beef liver chunks) and fried pork chop, with a Coke Light, for 80 pesos ($1.70) at the Chin’s stall.

Stopped by a travel agency after trying to dig through my Lonely Planet guide for a couple hours looking for excursions next few days. My local friends here are busy for whatever reasons so I figured I’d find a way to go on my own a couple days. Now’s when I really miss Luis’ travel-planning expertise! The agent made photocopy fliers of a couple of really expensive tour packages priced respectively at $450 and $750 for a 2-night trip to Donsol or a 4-night trip to the sights around Baguio. I’d rather just hop on the bus myself and book the hotel directly, skipping all the rest.

Batanes still beckons. I’m tempted to just call the Asian Spirit reservations desk and plop myself down there to see what adventure awaits. It’s a really remote place with only 3 or 4 flights per week.

Oh, I wanted to note some things my local acquaintances of told me about their lives. Won’t name names because of course this was told to me in confidence but it’ll help you get a glimpse of what life as a Filipino is like.

  • One young man (age 21) here in Malate is taking his college graduation exam tomorrow morning. He studied hotel management and hopes to get an assignment in Canada, the USA or France.
  • A 33-year-old who has spent several years in Saudi Arabia received an overseas job offer this week. It was $750 per month for executive-secretarial work; he countered at $1000 and is in negotiations. The workplace is in some town in Iraq (he said he’d need to look at a map to see exactly where). He assured me that the paycheck would be much more than he can make here.

And here are three notes on obscurities that I’ve noticed here:

  • Filipinos like ice in their beer.
  • The Starbucks outside my hotel doesn’t open until after 9am. In fact the only shop I’ve found open by 8am is one of the two Figaros.
  • The LRT mass transit line closes at 9:33pm.

I started writing some more of these down in my room. Guidebooks are kinda incomplete. My biggest beef with the two guidebooks that I have is that their “getting there” section for each destination never seems to be accompanied by a “getting back” section. Without this info it’s impossible to plan a day-trip; you need to know when the last bus leaves. (Example, we got stuck in Valencia when we found out sometime after 6pm that the last jeepney is at 5pm. Distance was short enough to hire a tricyle, but wouldn’t it be nice to know ahead of time?) Travel agents aren’t much help because they are so focused on package-tour sales.

Well I think it’s time to finish this up, maybe I will check out of my hotel and leave Manila tomorrow or maybe I will linger for a while longer. Life in Malate has really been kind to me so far!

I got two reminders of politics back in the USA today. One was in the Manila Times, which reprinted an article from the Boston Globe about whatever scandal just befell the Mitt Romney campaign (something about a leaked memo bashing the French). Run, Mitt, run! The other was from a former business client of mine, who is helping with the draft-Gore campaign. He pointed out that the website he’s working on got a huge number of hits after Gore won an Oscar. So a lot of things in my life are tied together somehow in weird ways.


Slacking in Malate

It’s another hot summer day in Manila. I am escaping the heat–and an aggressive street hustler who spotted me outside my guesthouse an hour ago after we chatted a couple nights ago–in the aircon comfort of the Internet cafe.

Luis is back, our house is safe & sound thanks to the kindly efforts of our house-sitter, but Boston’s cold and here I am smugly ensconced in summer 3 months ahead of time. Sorry, Luis! I’ll be suffering again before you know it!

Speaking of aggressive hustlers, I’ve been getting mysterious text messages and even a few voice-call attempts on my mobile from a gal who goes by the name of Josephine. Were I inclined that way, I could have a new kaibigan (friend) / text-mate. There aren’t any phonebooks in the prepaid cellular world so I guess she just goes down a list of random phone numbers. My grandmother always said make lemonade if life hands you a lemon, so to challenge myself I switched to Tagalog in a response to Josephine. Now she texts me in Tagalog so I have opportunity to learn a bit more language.

When I’m on my own, for meals I gravitate toward counter-service eateries rather than sit-down restaurants. But tiring of Chowking and Jollibee, I sat down at David’s Tea House along Remedios not far from the Baywalk. Had a dish of sotanghon beef hot-pot, served literally boiling in a clay bowl. Very sarap (tasty) for not much more than a tired old Jollibee hamburger value-meal.

Just noticed now an older guy who gave up on the PC next to me a while ago, saying it was slow, who is now grumpily arguing with the attendant about the bill for his Internet usage on the 2nd PC. (28 pesos, a 45-minute minimum equating to 60 cents, clearly displayed on-screen.) I roll my eyes – along with the friendly Asians here – at the ill behavior of many of my own race…in part because I used to run a small Internet business myself. The main problem with owning your own business is you have to have…customers!

Yesterday I saw two different acquaintances whom I’ve met here: lunch with one in Makati, and dinner with the other at Aristocrat. In between I went to the United Airlines office where the absolute most friendly ticket agent in the world works. Her name is Grace and if you ever come to Philippines, it’s worth the extra $115 change fee just so you can get to meet her. (Well, it’s also worth it to get some extra time for your trip…!)

Ferdinand (more about him further down) said the museums aren’t very good here, and I have determined for myself that the locals don’t seem to appreciate parks. Yesterday I took a closer look at my guidebook (published June 2006) and have concluded that developers have almost completely sabotaged a wonderful park space in Makati: what remains of Greenbelt Park is a courtyard surrounding the church, about 80% of the park is consumed by the building under construction across from our first hotel (BSA Tower). In fact it’s quite noticeable how much more of the building exists now than 3 weeks ago when I first saw it! The last thing Greenbelt needed was yet another shopping mall. Another park appears on the Lonely Planet map: Ayala Triangle.

Venturing to the other side of Ayala Avenue, what I found in the triangle was rather curious: a big piece of land, probably more than 50 acres, with a big garden area occupying maybe 10% of the space up against an office tower, with the rest relatively wild. A security guard looked at me somewhat quizzically when I wandered in, and I noted that despite proximity to the foot traffic of one of the world’s biggest urban centers, the space was deserted! Conscious of the many pesos in my pocket, just returning from the ATM, along with my return airline ticket, I went in anyway. Among the weeds and trees I saw a hut with 3 guys playing cards; bushwhacking my way through to the other side–not really much in the way of trails!–I encountered some occupied shanties, then a construction area that looked like it’s supposed to become gardens but probably shut down soon after work started years ago. Then along the way out I saw a sign that said the area’s private property. Hmm. Mysterious. This is all in the shadow of tremendous skyscrapers. Being a lover of skyscrapers, I must say that skyscrapers without parks, or boardwalks without places to rest away from touts and vendors, are simply less valuable.

Well let’s see, not a whole lot else to report in this entry, I’m taking a bit of a breather from the frenetic activity of our Visayas itinerary. Had breakfast with Ferdinand (San Sebastian alum) this morning, in his charming and gracious way he mentioned a couple of potential itineraries outside Manila. There is a place to the south to go swim with the whale-sharks; he followed up later to report that his friend who lives down there said the boaters there have yet to spot any this season. And he also suggested a place to the far north, the Batanes islands, which my Lonely Planet guide concurs with Ferdinand as a great place to see people who live and look different from those inhabiting the rest of the Philippines, and which can be explored on bicycle. But I have to find out the weather conditions, since I do not have clothes with me to handle cold.

I paid for two more nights in Malate but after that I might go exploring beyond Manila.


Departure for Luis

But Rich to stay a couple weeks

It’s early evening in Malate, after a 3-hour walk to burn off last night’s calories I filled my belly with so-so Chinese hot-and-sour pork from Chowking and wandered to one of the handful of Korean-owned Internet cafes in the neighborhood. (I am surrounded by young Koreans of both genders, mostly playing a particular shoot-em-up game played on a map with dragons, sorcerers, knights and such.)I have been corresponding with some other friends who are also traveling during the past few weeks: Richie in New Orleans, Mark in India, Kevin & Clara also in New Orleans (now moved on to Texas), Will in Ethiopia, Tony in Rome. The modern Internet’s like postcards blasting through the ether, never landing at a fixed street address. Happily, 9/11 did not bring an end to modern air travel. And I can keep my bills paid online too… wink

Luis bade farewell to his father last night at the new home just set up for him in Paranaque City. It was an emotional time and I’ll leave out the details from this blog. I helped configure the new TV and we took some pictures before heading out to the Mall of Asia to buy a pair of barongs (formal Filipino shirts) and to have dinner with two of the guys from the reunion (Ferdinand and Ogie).

The famous Filipino up-sell happened at the dinner table: about 7 or 8 dishes materialized, turning our dinner for 4 into a huge buffet, and none of us bothered inquiring why we were served more than we ordered–we got our own private buffet. (But don’t worry, the bill included these extra items!) No matter, two hours went by, then three, then four, and finally I had to point out around 12:20am that there were only a couple other tables still occupied and that we probably ought to get some sleep! I think Luis will always be greatful that he had these friends, who were very close to him back in the 1970s, to be with at this time in our lives. Maybe they will be close once again.

This morning we sorted through our belongings, had a leisurely coffee, stopped by the guest house to request a room down-grade for me, and we hailed a taxi to Makati City to meet up with sister Bess and friend John. Naturally I found food in front of me! (Take a look at Luis’ food diary entry–he’s been keeping close track!) John took a long time getting to our rendezvous; we’d been told to get to the airport 3 hours before flight time, our taxi made it there about 2.5 hours beforehand. Luis and I said goodbye, and then I got a second-chance goodbye when he was sent back outside 20 minutes later to the ticket office by an officious bureaucrat who pointed out a discrepancy on his airline ticket. (We had changed the date of his ticket, and the ticket was not reissued but attached to some other document. When I change mine I will attempt to get it completely reissued.)

Today was a muggy day in Manila and there isn’t anything to explore at Aquino airport unless you’re holding a ticket. So I grabbed a cab back to Malate. This driver asked me for 150 pesos, I told him I’d pay the meter price, tapos (and then) he said he’d do it for 120 – that was an OK price, about 20% higher than the normal fare+tip. The part of me that automatically seeks the best price for things finds itself bumping against the part of me that empathizes with the plight of the underpaid workers here.

My original plan for the day was to get together with one of my local contacts here, but he wasn’t feeling well so we rescheduled that for tomorrow.

Alone in Manila. Big capital city. Daming taol (so many people)! During my walk on the Baywalk and through the Remedios area I saw one curious thing: A small crowd on the sidewalk outside Bed and the Rainbow Project were looking up, drawing my eye to the sight of a young man 10 meters in the air, pruning fronds from a coconut palm. (My Florida grandfather taught me to prune these back when I was young. But he never taught me to shimmy up a tree, barefoot, well beyond the reach of most pruning saws!) A couple other guys collected 4 or 5 ripe coconuts he’d passed down.

I got a suggestion from another local contact to engage him as a guide to see Baguio. We will talk about that tomorrow.

A few of my friends who are reading this have reminded me to be on the lookout for problems, presumably some type of crime. The only real concern I have about crime in the modern world is violence or kidnapping, which has become a problem in some places. Violence appears to be worse back in Boston than it is here, judging from what I’ve seen and read so far. Last year I worked in a Boston neighborhood where at least 6 or 8 gunshot incidents happened within a half-mile of my office in a 3-month period. Guns are everywhere here, but so far I’ve only seen them in the holsters of security personnel. One of Luis’ cousins pointed out a wall that had been erected next to his college campus after a bank robbery shoot-out sometime last decade.

Two kindly souls stopped me on the street a little while ago and gave me helpful tips on tourism here. The first told me that the ladies on offer at most of the pubs here are actually ladyboys (his assumption that I wouldn’t be interested was accurate enough, but for very different reasons–I like my guys a bit more buff!) The second noted that I was walking on the sidewalk, looking up at all the tall buildings, and suggested that it’d be safer to walk out on the street. I took his advice with a bit of a grain of salt, given the tendency for jeepneys jockeying for riders to pass within centimeters of parked cars on each side.

For what it’s worth I’ve always looked up at all the tall buildings! I love the great cities of the world. Alas I was born too late to be part of the great era of city-building in the USA, I should’ve been a civil or structural engineer.

Well it’s time to resume my walk. If you get tired of my blog, here’s a link to our friend Kevin and Clara’s Motorcycle Moments.


Saturday in Manila

Yesterday afternoon we flew back to Manila from our 24-hour stay in Boracay. I had arranged a few days earlier to get together with Bien Cruz, the quite guapo brother of Luis’ relative Emily who lives a few minutes’ drive from us back in the States. He offered to pick us up from the airport so we had a wonderfully smooth time getting launched back into the Manila urbanopolis. We took him out to the Havana Cafe pub near our newest hotel the Malate Pensionne, after he and his family offered their gracious hospitality at their home in Paranaque City.

We had a couple more highlights in Boracay on Friday. At breakfast, we ran into a friendly group of older gentlemen who spent an hour with us. A dozen of them were preparing for an annual gathering of their Rotary Club group. Two of them even insisted on giving me their phone numbers. Then during a walk on the beach (this time to the south end), we saw two tourists and a local up ahead; the Filipino tourist recognized me from the evening before and asked if we were staying at Orchids Resort. Turns out they are a gay mixed-race couple, 13 years together, not too different from us. They are (recovering) Mormons who met in Salt Lake City and now live in Seattle. Yet another mobile phone number added to my growing list of contacts here!

Luis wanted to recover his sunglasses from our predatious boatman of the day before – he’d tucked them into a life vest and forgot them on departure – so after many text messages back and forth, we were reunited with the glasses. And of course the boatman! We are both enamored of him and his “crew” (three cousins ranging from 17 to 25 years old). We decided to hire them to take us directly to the airport, yet another terrific reminder of how easy it is to arrange for private transport. A sailboat directly from your hotel to the airport, that’s how I always fantasized the way Pacific islanders can live their lives! Alas, most of them can’t afford it – I am forever getting reminded of the gap between haves and have-nots in our world. I’m glad that I am equally comfortable (if not more so) spending time with people at the bottom rungs of the ladder as with those near the top.

This morning we had our Saturday morning coffee-and-newspaper routine at the Figaro Cafe here in Malate. The news is filled with the upcoming Philippine senatorial elections. The business section noted that Smart, one of three major cell phone companies, has reached 25 million subscribers and has coverage reaching 99% of the country’s population. These are numbers that would make American companies stand up and take note. The numbers I like are the subscriber fees and service policies: take those 2-year contracts and 15-cent-per-SMS fees and shove ’em!

On Boracay I noticed a handful of for-sale signs along the commercial strip. Two ideas occurred to me: one, I could buy one of those and open the very first gay guest-house and probably make a killing; two, the local government should buy up as much land as possible to create some public park areas from which street vendors are restricted.

Tomorrow Luis leaves for the States. I have a wide-open agenda, starting with a trip early this coming week to the United Airlines ticket office in Makati City to confirm my return date. Luis suggests a side trip to Baguio. The weather forecast shows rain and chilly weather so I’ll have to look into it some more before deciding. Meanwhile my cell-phone address list full of friendly Filipinos’ numbers beckons!


Boracay!

Famed resort has its highlights

Mar 1 -Today we made it to what many would call the highlight of their Philippines trip. I’ll start with the good points about Boracay and then mention some of the issues I have with this place, from my perspective growing up in some of the world-famous coastal resorts of the USA.

From the moment you head out for Boracay from your connecting airport (in our case it was Mactan, ie Cebu), the process of getting here feels like an adventure. A 19-seater turboprop of a different variety than the typical Beechcraft one finds in America deposits you on a landing strip across the strait from here. (It really is a landing strip! Your pilot takes a U-turn on the same runway on which you landed toward a “terminal” where some guy grabs your luggage claim tags, has you sign something, leads you out of the terminal and disappears for 5 minutes during which you’re wondering whether you will ever see the luggage again now that you’ve signed everything away…) More on that process later.

About 90 minutes later you’re at the one hotel you’ve been able to book because all the others were full. (Later you conclude that it’s a mile and a half from everything and further from the actual waterfront than anything else.) This place is big! We took a walk from our end where the hotel is along the white-sand beach. It’s one of those beaches dominated by palm trees. Closest thing to it I can remember–and I’ve seen a lot of beaches–is Luquillo on Puerto Rico. What makes it different from everywhere else is how the “boardwalk” is actually just a stretch of sand about 10 meters wide between the palm trees and the storefronts. We got here in the afternoon, so because the beach faces west, the trees provide shade for the long walk.

Most beachfront resort areas are 3km long, give or take; usually a little less. This one is a full 3 miles long, a fact I didn’t realize until I looked at a map in the early evening. All except the northernmost half-mile are lined cheek-by-jowl with storefronts: restaurants, resorts, dive centers, and other shops. A handful of vacant lots are being developed into bigger things than whatever was there previously. Further to the north, some big multi-story resorts are under construction (two cranes are visible) but most all the existing facilities are 3 stories high or less.

There are no motorized vehicles along the waterfront, and all the commerce is lined up along the waterfront save one section called the D-mall which forms a large block running out to a road 200 meters or so over from the “board”-walk area.

Highlights of our day included a terrific sailboat ride–piloted by two really cute/friendly 25-year-old locals–all the way around the 6-mile long island, culminating in an absolutely stunning, clear sunset. After the 3-mile walk back to our hotel (no, the sailors couldn’t drop us off at our end of the beach, alas), we showered and had a fabulous grilled buffet dinner right out on the sandy beach. Looked for a masseur (a couple of touts had reached out to us earlier) but only found masseuses. Had a drink at the bar outside Nigi-Nigi Noos Noos, as suggested by our friends Ramon & Ed. Now we’re here at the Internet cafe not so far from our room. (Well, probably a kilometer from our room, but who’s counting? ;-))

Some recommendations for future Boracay visitors:

  • Make sure you have a full 1000 pesos’ worth of small change before getting onto the plane here – 20 and 50 peso notes – because you’ll get hit up about 10 times just getting here (taxes, ferries, drivers, porters). All these compliance requests became an irritant to me because I didn’t realize this ahead of time and it really differs from other Philippine destinations. A wad of 500-peso notes doesn’t cut it.
  • Look at the map and site your lodging accordingly. If you want a boat, seek a place in the center or at the opposite end of where we are. (Boats are to the north.)
  • There are only a handful of ATMs. And only the BPI branch is connected to Plus/Cirrus networks. Grab cash before coming here.

Now some of my comments…

The environmentalist in me is appalled by the development here. Sure, it’s quaint having restaurant tables and live entertainment out on the beach. But there is an actual sewage outflow installed right on the beach, vendors dump leftover whatever (I saw a guy pouring dregs from a tray of seafood onto the sand), and customers are surely not going to take much interest in where their trash and crumbs go. You could see litter on the beach and in the sea. Over time, this will despoil the environment. I’m glad the beach can be traversed by the public–it doesn’t have fences blocking walking access the way many places, like Key West, have gotten to be. But there is a lack of respect for the environment on which everything–including all the commerce here–depends.

The strip is less than one block wide, and is very long. By failing to construct public rights of way leading inland, the development sprawled too far along the waterfront.

I’m a gay guy and am most comfortable around others like me. I have found “my own kind” everywhere else I’ve wandered here in the Philippines, usually within a matter of minutes. Here, despite recommendations from at least one well-traveled couple we know, I’ve found only a sea of straight people. Unless I’ve missed something, I would not recommend this place to other gay travelers given the plethora of other places one could go — if you care about such things. I do.

Tomorrow we return to Manila. I’ve kept in touch with a couple of people there so I can start making plans for the 2-week trip extension; we plan on a Saturday dinner at the Mall of Asia with some of Luis’ high-school friends.


Back in Cebu

OK I finally went shopping!

Feb 28 – The bus ride back from Dumaguete seemed longer and more arduous than the one down there. Maybe I am wistful: the people of Dumaguete really are quite special; I can’t figure out whether it’s because they just don’t see many white guys so they were curious about me, or because they’re just plain more friendly. It really is likely to be the latter; it may be mainly a college town, but it’s also got plenty of resort accommodations.

Our hotel back here treated us remarkably well, handing us the key and sending a porter up with our bags moments later. Such a relief after a 5.5-hour bus/ferry ride. (Spoiled only by the grim bathroom facility in the room…;-)) Went shopping afterward – Luis insisted we need additional luggage to cart our stuff back to the States, which is why we collect new luggage on so many of our vacation trips – so I found myself in a department store rummaging through the socks & underwear section, starting to get that detached/bored expression that Luis knows so well. But the shirts captivated me; I remembered how cute one of his fellow alums looked at the reunion, and Luis remembered the brand name of the shirt so sure enough, I found a couple shirts that I liked. Very much nicer than what I find in boring American department stores.

To stave off my increasing grumpiness at being in a store for too long, Luis took me over to the McDonald’s. He wanted to experience the McSpaghetti, and I got a McRice burger. Don’t find those things in the States either, but I remember going to Honolulu back in 1987 and finding Japanese noodles on the McDonald’s menu.

Speaking of Mickie D’s, there’s a new one going up in the center of Dumaguete. I used to rank towns by the number of McDonald’s outlets to be found (when I moved to MA in 1980, I settled into the “2 McDonald’s town” of Marlborough). As noted in an earlier entry here, major construction projects like this operate at least two shifts: two nights ago we walked past the Dumaguete site at 9pm, and could see full work crews creating the familiar McDonald’s interior on the ground floor and adding steelwork to the structure high up on the 3rd floor. Everywhere you see a Jollibee in the Philippines, chances are you’ll find a McDonald’s no more than 2 blocks away.

A familiar sign you find – on many walls and buildings – is a tribute to the ill behavior of many of those great-looking, friendly guys you find in the urban centers: Bawal umihi dito (prohibited to piss here). Luis and I have witnessed many examples of this crude behavior, which seems to be part of the culture here but which clearly drives property owners stir-crazy. Public restrooms are far easier to find than in most any US city but some guys…

Another sign you see very often – next to cash registers – is from the BIR (don’t remember the acronym, it’s the Philippine IRS). Sales tax (called VAT pretty much everywhere but the USA) is assessed at 10% to 12% and almost always included in the price tag. The signs remind customers to always demand an official receipt bearing the store’s TIN, because evidently many merchants try to under-report sales volume.

Back to my wistful thinking about Dumaguete: yesterday I got up and decided to get some exercise. We’re eating 3 square meals plus snacks each day, and we’re not doing our usual exercise. So I ventured out to the promenade/boardwalk of Dumaguete, which is 780m long plus a stretch leading out to the dock, and made about 1-1/2 laps. Despite living a lot of my life on coastal beaches including Virginia Beach, Daytona and Fort Lauderdale, rare has been the day I’ve been up early enough to go out and look at the sunrise. It was remarkably pleasant to go out in 75F weather and glimpse my shadow cast all the way onto the buildings across the street as I jogged along the waterfront. This morning I repeated the exercise, not quite early enough to catch the sunrise, forcibly insisting to Luis that he join me. He too had a great time of it!

Ah, so many memories but so little time during the trip to write about them… one other thing I’ll mention before signing off here tonight is the German guy we met after a motorbike ride up to the waterfalls near Valencia (south of Dumaguete) yesterday. He appeared to be in his mid 60s, and struck up a conversation with us at a coffee shop. He’d been living there permanently for 3 years, after a number of visits. He’s got a Filipina wife whom he said was not “cooperative” in making permanent immigration plans. I got the sense that she wanted to raise their kids in Germany rather than Philippines, but didn’t inquire about that further. He said he chose to live about 15km outside Dumaguete for the cooler weather. Only 150m elevation, on the eastern slope of a higher mountain, makes a difference of at least 5 degrees Fahrenheit. So he said he gets access to all the comforts of the town without having to cope with the heat. I asked him how he’s treated by the community, since I know that as a permanent resident people treat you a lot differently (usually with competitive suspicion) than if you are a temporary visitor. He got off onto a tangent about a property-line encroachment dispute with a neighbor so I didn’t learn much. But I was very much thinking about how the Japanese tend not to accept foreigners no matter how much they assimilate. Filipinos, I think, are much more accepting even though I can plainly see that white people are only a very tiny minority here.

Luis and I contemplated future resettlement plans. Very much on my mind is the rise of Asia (exemplified here in Cebu by a tremendously tall building whose unfinished frame and construction crane dominates the skyline) and the seeming loss of common purpose – potential decline – in the USA. But the example of Luis’ father, who tried to make a new start in a foreign land in his 40s, serves to remind both of us that our home is the USA so at least for Luis the next 20 years or so will probably be rooted to a medical-research career in the USA. I have no idea what my own career will be; everywhere I turn here, I can think of money-making ideas that have yet to be implemented. In the USA, I can never come up with something that isn’t either already being done or which would get stomped into oblivion by well-established corporate giants the moment a hint of profitability becomes apparent. That’s why there is such an air of possibility here, at least for the myriad people here whose entrepreneurial spirit is similar to mine in my now-past career.

Well, all that said, I’ve opted not to return to USA for another couple of weeks. Philippines, you’ll have to live with me until (at least) the 18th!

Tomorrow we fly from Cebu City to Boracay for a one-day stay in the most famous white-sand beach of this island nation. Reaching our 7th island (8, I guess, if you count the neighboring island from here where the airport is), we will have seen 0.1% of the islands in the country.


Settling into Dumaguete

Asia works harder

I’m writing from the southeast corner of the Silliman University campus, across from a bustling team of steelworkers putting up a 4-story structure across the street. That reminded me to make note of another big difference between Asia and the USA, one which I first learned about as a contract employee at DEC (the computer company) back in 1993: all, not just some, major construction projects operate far more than 40 hours per week. Here they seem to run 2 shifts each day except Sunday. I worked at DEC in the early 1980s when they built a plant in Colorado that cost, oh, a hundred million plus and took 3 years to get running. In 1993, a coworker in management presented a slide show of his trip to Penang, Malaysia, with images of a vacant lot and adjacent office-park buildings of other Western companies. He and other managers promised we’d have a 600,000 square foot building running in 7 months at a cost of US$15 million – I thought no way – but by June 1994 they were indeed producing hard drives in that plant. Saws are spinning, welders’ sparks are flying from multiple points across the street every time I glance up now at 8pm on a warm February Monday.This morning Luis was glancing at CNN-World on cable and I noted a story about mass transit being proposed somewhere. The reporter interviewed some locals, they were mostly opposed. Two reasons: mass transit doesn’t go when you want, and it stops earlier than you want. In the background was an image of traffic very much like what we see here in Dumaguete: jeepneys and tuktuks. Growing up in the USA, it’s hard to comprehend until you actually live it here. You don’t need a car here unless you carry a lot of stuff all the time. (Even if you need to carry stuff, you can cheaply have it couriered instead of carrying it yourself.) I’m telling you, the economics of these places are just plain dramatically different! Put your hand out at virtually any hour of day, on virtually any street and within seconds you will have an eager driver pull out of the constant-flowing stream ready to take you wherever you want – direct, point-to-point – at a cost perhaps a tenth of a mass-transit fare (whether in the USA or installed here at a place like this). An informal taxi system like this is dirty, noisy, and won’t scale to the needs of some big cities – but it gives this Navy brat some food for thought as to what the public-spending priorities of a small city should be.

It would never work in America. Why not? I can spell out the difference between America and the developing world in one word: insurance. All the liability, medical, housing and other forms of insurance that we feel the need to carry in the USA basically doesn’t exist here. Perhaps this lack does impose hardship on those who are victims in a place like this, but the overall social cost of insurance in the USA is immense and growing. Everything we do in the USA carries a cost, typically several times the actual underlying cost, that can be directly attributed to insurance. I’ll skip the analytical details but ask this simple question: if I take a taxi in the same Toyota 4-door vehicle here, running on the same $2.50/gal gasoline as anywhere else, how come the fare for a 10km trip is 75 pesos ($1.60) here instead of $20 back at home? We’re looking at something that goes way beyond a simple currency exchange rate.

So much for economics. We had a simple day today: one excursion and then a long nap. The excursion took us to what is probably the most remote spot of the whole trip, a twin-lakes natural park situated 14km off the main highway to the north of here. We took a jeepney (most of the ones here look more like modified vans, holding just 12 passengers in back plus one in front, vs. the bigger elaborately-decorated ones of Manila and Cebu) to a turnoff 12km north of town. (Dumaguete is a mid-size town of 102,000, dominated by campuses of Silliman University and Negros Oriental State University.) A man jumped into the jeepney one stop after me, cradling and caressing his cock in his big, gentle hands. It kept crowing every few minutes. (What kind of cock did you think I was talking about?!?) At the turnoff we paid our 12 pesos fare, and hired a motorcycle guy to take us up to the park. The road is mostly paved, just a half-dozen dirt section; it takes you up to elevation 2900 feet. Park admission is 10 pesos for “locals” (including balikbayans) and 100 for foreigners (unfair? perhaps–think about those taxi surcharges we hit people with coming from Logan Airport).

At the park we were introduced a species that I’ve begun to call (fondly, of course) predatious boatmen. Quoted a price of 250 pesos (on top of the 400 we’d agreed to pay our driver), we said sure, we’d like to take a ride out on the lake.

Business accomplished, we were treated to one of the most serene, pastoral views of untrammeled nature that I’ve ever seen. Very little of the forest cover on the island of Negros dates back to primitive times, but much of the forest in this particular place is indeed primitive. Our driver pointed out where a few natives had been relocated away from the park (houses still being reconstructed, the park itself appears to date back to recent years). In fact our driver also pointed out one other major factor in the Negros tourism business: rebel guerillas had controlled some areas here as recently as 1994. So it’s only been safe for tourists for a bit over a decade, and developers have yet to build any major resorts.

Locals continue to say hello and make eye contact. I have a big language barrier and even Luis has some issues because some people only have limited Tagalog ability. But like everywhere else in the Philippines, most signage is printed in English and most businesses employ people with fluent English.

We saw an ad for a hotel chain called Shangri-La or something like that on TV last night that made us think about how much we prefer to interact with the locals wherever we go rather than cocooning ourselves in the isolated shelter of big corporate resort operations. How lucky we are to be able to settle into a place like Dumaguete, even if only for a few days!

Those smiles and, shall I say, furtive glances just pull you into a whole different attitude toward life!


Cebu and Dumaguete

Feb 25 – We’re not home to host the annual Oscar night bash, alas. But I’m thinking of y’all back home in Boston!

This morning we boarded a bus from Cebu City to Dumaguete, a ride of about 100km including a ferry hop of 8km from the island of Cebu to that of Negros. Luis didn’t warn me about those bus drivers! Fortunately we were seated close to the back of the bus, so I could see my life flashing by before my eyes. But I could see the red-shifted blur out the side window as we sped through the countryside, barreling past everything from tuk-tuks to other buses at speeds (registered on my handheld GPS) of 90 to 105kph on a narrow undivided winding road of the sort where a State-side traffic cop would cite you for doing 50mph. Well I must still be alive because you’re reading this now.

Luis likes Dumaguete best of all the places we’ve seen so far! I attribute that to the cooler weather, it’s a picture-perfect tropical beachside community with temperature around 80F. I’m writing this at 8:30pm with three San Miguels and a Chinese meal of fish and bitter-melon veggies in me. We’ve strolled the length of the beach, and about half the guys along the beach made eye contact and smiled or said hello to me. An amazingly friendly place! I’m among very few white people here, I’ve seen maybe a half-dozen, virtually all considerably older than me. Presumably there are many Koreans mixed in with the weekend Filipino crowd. The boardwalk is lovely and active with (straight) couples out strolling; we watched the evening lighting come on, and Luis was intrigued with the guitar motif sprinkled through the trees.

Last night we tried to link up with a friend of a friend in Cebu City but that person changed plans. We opted to go to a movie house, which was an experience in itself. (A film I’d read about, Troika, had just opened a couple weeks ago. We noticed it showing as we rode our taxi into town, I’d marked the location in my GPS so we went back in the evening. Our Lonely Planet guide pointed out that this part of town is one where many locals don’t go, there is a big difference between downtown and the uptown location where our lodging was.)

When we checked in early at the hotel (Jasmine Pension) at Cebu, we were brought to a very small, dark room. I drew the line at this and asked that we switch to another room. It was literally like night and day: the desk clerk pointed out that a better room would cost another (whopping) 70 pesos, but wow what a difference it was! We got an airy 2nd floor room with a big window and double beds. Decided on the spot to use that same hotel when we return to Cebu on Wednesday!

Also in Cebu we took a jeepney out toward the Taoist Temple. I say toward because we wound up at least a kilometer away. There are no public buses in Cebu, only taxicabs, tricycles, motorcycles and jeepneys. The jeepneys operate on fixed routes and you have to get in the right one. You just hop on, then get off at or close to your destination, and pay an attendant or the driver the city-regulated fare of 6 pesos. (A tad over 12 cents at today’s exchange rate, peso is gaining on the dollar as I write this.) The Taoist Temple at sunset is a charming place. (Also charming was the 20-ish guy who kept staring and smiling at me whenever I glanced his way…;-) But we made this trip in the wrong sequence vs. another trip: the Buddhist temples of Japan have remarkably detailed craftsmanship so I had to put aside my criticism of the carpentry.

Luis and I got into a cute squabble afterward, when I put too much reliance into my techno-geek gadgetry and jumped off the jeepney too early. The return route was very different from the one we’d taken out to the temple. Fortunately, my mistake only cost us a dozen pesos (to catch a second jeepney) and a relentless tongue-lashing from Luis. wink

We’re going to a national park tomorrow, wistfully thinking about the Oscars on American television at the same hour.


Friday in Bohol

The island natives are good-looking and friendly!

We just got back from a long bus ride to the interior of Bohol, a biggish island (probably 200km across), where we saw a place called Chocolate Hills. The place is so-named because the geological formations look like truffles scattered across the plain. It’s a beautiful spot, but as the most-famous tourist attraction on the island, the amenities are surprisingly spartan given how far you have to travel to reach it from Loboc or Tagbilaran City. I was hoping at least for a hiking trail but encountered instead just a TCA (tourist containment area) designed for busloads of people to march up to the top of a hill, ring a bell, take pictures and go. We sought a restaurant but found only a snack bar. So we came back here to the Island City Mall, grabbed some KFC and headed for the Netopia center where I’m typing this now. Luis wants to see a movie; while he’s doing that I plan to take a random walk in the direction of our hotel (3km).Last night we had an encounter that I consider the epitome of native hospitality. Luis and I went for a walk to take some beachfront pictures at sunset; almost immediately, a local made eye contact with me and invited me to come over to the bar. He introduced me to a half-dozen friends and served me a coconut-based wine; I begged off for 15 minutes, explaining that I wanted to join Luis for the sunset. Then I returned to the table with Luis and we socialized for 90 minutes or so, until darkness fell. The personalities of the guys were quite varied. Their native tongue is Bisaya but most of them could communicate with Luis in Tagalog; two of them knew a little English. The quiet 25-year-old kid next to me was flirting with me with his hands under the table, and the first guy who invited me over attempted 3 times to get me to leave the group to spend time with him. This led to my possibly-faulty presumption that we’d run into a local group of baklas (gays) (bayot in Bisaya). What was truly funny to me was that Luis’ impression of them, based mainly on unkempt personal appearance, was that they were “thugs” (my closest approximation of the Tagalog word Luis used). I had to laugh because these were, to my mind, quite gentle souls from whom I sensed no danger.

Before our evening hour with that group (I got together with a couple of them later on, just had a beer with the one who had spent 6 years as a seaman, mostly serving in the Persion Gulf area around Iran), we spent the day with our driver Emil. He took us to see two of the places where tarsiers are on display. We also stopped by two churches. At one of the church grounds, I had a rather surreal experience: four boys between 4 and 6 years old approached us, literally wearing nothing but shirts. One of them had learned hand reflexology and gave me a seemingly-professional massage to both of my hands, using all the regular techniques. Kid must be 5, it was just totally bizarre, he was quite strong despite the tiny size of his fingers. We gave them some coins and went on our way.

How did we wind up with a “driver” of our own, you may ask? Well, it wasn’t really something we intended or read in the guide book, but the cell phone is at the heart of it. This is something I suggest to anyone who likes to travel. In the USA, taxicabs are outrageously expensive. When you travel, expect to spend $1 to $5 for a typical cab ride; that’s been the price everywhere I’ve gone the past few years. Except here, where it’s about 6 to 75 pesos (12 cents to $1.50, usually on the low end of that range). What we wound up doing on our first couple trips starting with arriving at the airport here at Tagbilaran City was to take down the cell phone numbers of the first couple of cab rides (most of the “cabs” here are tricycles–a motorcycle with side car). We decided which one we liked and hired him for the day next day. Made the “mistake” of not negotiating a price ahead of time, but we’d been a good judge of character: he let us set whatever price we wanted. He took his own judgment of us first thing in the morning: prompted us whether to buy a full tank of gas (10 liters). We wound up giving him lunch and another 350 pesos for about 7 hours of driving for us. He showed up very promptly to pick us up again this morning, this time just to drop us at a bus station.

We bought a ticket for the 7:30am ferry to Cebu tomorrow.

Note: We have been taking photos all along and have the ability to insert them here, but the process is too painful given the slow PCs, slow uploads and lack of file-management tools on most public Internet PCs.


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